Happy Monday, assuming there is such a thing as a happy Monday that is. I hope the week has started off well at your place. As always I wish it were still the weekend, but I am trying to make the best of it. While it has warmed up here it has been raining and/or dreary all day. There is nothing like a yucky grey day to keep me inside where it is warm and dry. ;-) On the bright side I have gotten a lot done because I wasn’t able to spend as much time outside as I would like. As I always say there is an upside to everything in life if you just look for it.
Don’t you just love that the days are getting longer? *woo hoo* It will be spring and then summer before we know it. *happy dance* I am seriously looking forward to spending spring, summer and fall on the boat. There is nothing more relaxing to me than hanging out on the boat. I can feel the boat gently bobbing now. ;-) Come on spring! I would rather be looking at the scenery in the picture above then at the cold, dreary rain that is outside now.
Day 1 – Defined Success and What is/was Holding Us BackDay 2 – Determined our Purpose and Looked at Passion
Day 3 – Listed Our Goals for January
Day 4 – Listed the Things We Have Needed to Work on for a While
Day 5 – Looked at Optimism vs. Pessimism and Fear vs. Intuition
Day 6 – Practiced Conscious Eating
Day 7 – Hara Hachi Bu
Day 8 – Taking the Stress Out of Meal Time
Day 9 – Acknowledgments
Day 10 – No Excuses, Do it Anyway
Day 11 – Is it True?
Day 12 – Have You Really Connected With Someone Today?
Day 13 – Motivation is a Decision
Day 14 - Successfully Navigating Dinner at an Unfamiliar Restaurant
Day 15 - What Do You Want, Have You Asked?
Day 16 – Treating Others as You Wish to be Treated
Day 17 – Food as a Budget
Day 18 – Silence Your Inner Critic
Day 19 – Replace I Have to With I Want to
Day 20 – Identifying Your Rituals
Day 21 – Face Your Fears
Day 22 – Give Up the Diet Mentality
What did you think of yesterday’s post about ditching the diet mentality? Do you think that there is any validity to my comments? Was there something in that post which you are going to try to apply to your life? I really would like to hear your thoughts if you aren’t too shy to comment.
I am sure there are other meanings for food; these are just the ones that it has had for me in the past. Now I am going to ask you to think about what food means to you. I have designed a series of questions to help you to figure it out in case you don’t know immediately.
Today’s exercises are:
1. Do you think you know what food means to you? If you do write it down in the journal. We will come back to this later after you have done the exercises.
2. For today write down everything that you eat. This includes things like coffee (even black), candy from the office candy bowl, if you consume right it down. You don’t need to measure or weigh the food that doesn’t matter. But I want you to write down the following information:
· What time you got out of bed
· What were you thinking or feeling before you ate?
· Time of day you ate
· How hungry were you before you ate (0-neutral neither hungry nor full, 1-a little hungry, 2-very hungry, 3-starved)
· What you ate (describe the food)
· Who was with you when you ate (were you alone or with friends)
· Where were you (at home, at work, at the restaurant, etc.)
· What were you thinking as you were eating?
· What were you thinking of feeling immediately after you finished eating?
· How full were you after you ate (0-netural neither hungry nor full, 1-satisfied, 2-uncomfortably full,3-Thanksgiving full miserable)
· What time did you get into bed
3. Look at the list you complied in item two above. Does anything stand out for you? Did you eat immediately upon waking up or was lunch your first meal? Do you wait until you are hungry to eat? It is common for people to feel sad, angry, frustrated, lonely, bored, happy or tired before eating. Does this describe you or was there another emotion that was coming up for you? Did you eat all day long, or did you eat most of your calories at the end of the day? Eating a lot at night often leads to not eating breakfast which then sets up the cycle to eat a lot at night the next day. Just write down anything you notice by looking at your list. Maybe you were frustrated at work and grabbed some chips. People who are angry do tend to reach for crunchy food. The benefit of keeping a log for a few days is that you will start to see the patterns around your eating. Remember we can’t change what we don’t identify!
4. Now look at your feelings after you ate. Did your feelings change? Did the change last or was the feeling back before the next meal. Did eating make you feel worse and not better? In the past I felt good when I was eating but after I ate I would feel guilty because I knew that I had eaten food that I should not have consumed. Also how full were you after eating? If you went further than level 1 (satisfied) you should go back and reread day 7.
5. After reflecting on what was going on for you around food today do you still agree with what your wrote in item one about what food means to you? Maybe you still don’t know what food means to you. That is okay because this is a tough question for a lot of people. Just continue the steps above for a few days and see if what comes up for you. I suspect that many of you will need to do this for a while to figure it out. If you had asked me twenty years ago what food meant to me I would have thought that was a ridiculous question and probably would have said something like “food is food.” Yes, I was in denial for a long time. As I often say, if I can figure this stuff out for me I know you can do it because I was one tough nut to crack. ;-)
Were you able to figure out what food means to you? Do you like your answer or do you think that you need to change your relationship with food now. Did I explain this in a way that makes sense? I hope that I did. Like always if anything that I wrote is unclear or you think that it requires clarification please don’t hesitate to let me know either by commenting or sending me an email.
Progress on my goals:
1. Newsletters – Sunday I took the day off from working on the newsletters. Sometimes we all need a little break from work.
2. Body Bugg – I continue to wear my bugg and I have gotten back into using it the way I had intended when I purchased it. Go me! J
3. Date with Dan – The hubby and I have spent a lot of time together this week. With the weather we have stayed fairly close to home but we can have fun anywhere home or out. ;-)
4. Measuring calorie dense food – I am making a little progress on this but I really need to focus on it with every veggie meal to help my body absorb the fat soluble vitamins.
5. Working on my business – Sunday I took the day off from working on the business. The January posts are taking me many more hours to write than usual. As much as I love these posts I will be happy to see February arrive since I really need a little time back to work on other things, the business being one of them.
· While the house looks empty without the Christmas stuff it was nice to get it all down and put away over the weekend. Typically I put the stuff up and Dan takes it down but we worked as a team this time and got it finished much more quickly. Everything goes faster when you work together, a good thing for all of us to remember.
· We have gotten into the habit of going for a walk after dinner. It reminds me of being in Italy since everyone seems to walk after dinner; in fact it is so common there is a word for it, la passeggiata. I loved the tradition of it when we were in Italy so I have decided to try to add it to our life at home too. For now Dan is going along with me on this. Let’s hope he doesn’t start working too late for this to be an option.
· Some days things just come together and this was one of those days. The dinner I made was out of this world delicious. I love it when I get just the right combination of ingredients. I have been trying to encourage all of you to trust your instincts and to cook without a recipe which is why you haven’t been seeing many recipes from me lately. Anyone can follow a recipe but when you learn to cook without a recipe then you can feed yourself no matter what you have in the house. I think this is going to be an upcoming series on the blog. What do you think of the idea?
· We went for a nice walk Sunday evening. The sidewalks were icy but the scenery was fantastic. I love to see the street lights shine on the ice covered bare branches. I am sorry that I haven’t been able to get any decent pictures for you. The light was dancing on the ice and it was a bit like walking in a fairyland. What a wonderful way to end the day. I never get tired of going for a walk after dinner. J
· I had the epiphany today about the meaning of food. As soon as it popped into my head I couldn’t believe that it took me so long to look at it that way. How any of us view food is huge in terms of what it means for our overall health. I am so glad I finally made the connection so that I could share it with you.
· It was great to have time to watch two episodes of the meditation DVD from The Great Courses. I have almost finished all the DVDS. I want to watch it twice before I review it for you. But as you can probably guess I am really enjoying it. These DVDs definitely made me think about my reaction to things and I love that.
· We have bean soup in the refrigerator again. *woo hoo* I know that this wouldn’t make many people happy but I love it. Beans are such a healthy food and I feel so much better when I eat them every day. If you haven’t tried eating beans daily I hope you will. They don’t agree with everyone’s gastrointestinal system but if they agree with yours you will miss them when you don’ teat them.