Aren’t weekends always the best part of every week? I don’t even mind that our weather is icky. I hope you are having an equally upbeat weekend too.
Day 2 – Determined our Purpose and Looked at Passion
Day 3 – Listed Our Goals for January
Day 4 – Listed the Things We Have Needed to Work on for a While
Day 5 – Looked at Optimism vs. Pessimism and Fear vs. Intuition
Day 6 – Practiced Conscious Eating
Day 7 – Hara Hachi Bu
Day 8 – Taking the Stress Out of Meal Time
Day 9 – Acknowledgments
Day 10 – No Excuses, Do it Anyway
Day 11 – Is it True?
Day 12 – Have You Really Connected With Someone Today?
Day 13 – Motivation is a Decision
Day 14 - Successfully Navigating Dinner at an Unfamiliar Restaurant
Day 15 - What Do You Want, Have You Asked?
Day 16 – Treating Others as You Wish to be Treated
Day 17 – Food as a Budget
Day 18 – Silence Your Inner Critic
Day 19 – Replace I Have to With I Want to
Day 20 – Identifying Your Rituals
Did the post yesterday help you to identify your unhealthy rituals? I used to have many unhealthy rituals back in the bad old days. I hope seeing all the things that I used to do wrong gives you hope that you can change too. Sometimes I get the feeling that many of you think I came out of the womb healthy and nothing could be further from the truth. I used to be the average American just like you. If you ever have any questions about my transition to a healthy plant-based whole food diet please ask. I am happy to help you any way that I can.
1. What is something that you have wanted to do for a long time that you haven’t done because you are afraid of a possible bad outcome? Maybe you want to lose weight but you think you have tried everything, except a diet like ours, and you know that you can’t do that because it is too limiting for you. (Are you sure it is true? – you may want to reread day 11 of this series)
Since I began taking courses at IIN I have been talking starting a business helping people to improve their health. As you all know health is something that I am extremely passionate about so this seems like a natural fit for me. But fear of not being perfect has been holding me back. Today I decided to tell you all what is going on in my head in the hope that it will inspire you to break through your fear too. Believe me when I tell you that sharing this part of me on the blog is definitely scary and now that is it “out there” all of you can, and hopefully will, hold me accountable. *eek* ;-)
2. Describe at least 3 other times that you pushed through the fear that the situation turned out well. If you want to describe more than 3 even better. The purpose to remind yourself that the little voice (the fear) is frequently wrong. Don’t let fear hold you back from becoming the best you possible. You can use a lot more detail than I did I was just showing you some examples of things I was afraid of that worked out well.
· Marrying Dan – that is an obvious one and I can’t imagine what life would be like now if I had not done this. *shakes head*
· Leaving healthcare finance – This was terrifying when I did it but one of the best decisions that I ever made. Now I have no idea why I waited 2 decades to do it.
· Starting the blog – Yes I was even afraid to start the blog initially. I am not tech savvy like my husband so I felt like a fish out of water. Also I couldn’t imagine that anyone would want to read a blog about healthy cooking, particularly healthy vegan cooking. I am very glad that I was wrong on all counts.
· Taking course at e-Cornell, IIN and Robbins-Madanes – I can’t speak for the last one yet but I am happy that I did the other two. Part of me thought I was too old to learn new things and I am happy that this was not true. Additionally taking the first two courses clarified for me that I really do have a very good grasp of nutrition and that was huge for me. Not to mention that IIN is pushing me out of my comfort zone and into business which I know that I will love once I break through my fears.
3. How would your life be different if you pushed through the fear and did what scares you?
Darn I hate this question! Since I have thought about this so much I can tell you all the possible pit falls and many of the benefits. However since it does no good to continue to focus on the negatives I am only going to look at the potential upside which is:
· I could help people improve their health and I can think of nothing that would be more meaningful to me.
· I would be able to show people that they can eat a very healthy diet, inexpensively and easily and could tell them first-hand about the health benefits of such a change.
· Knowing that I was helping others to avoid cancer, heart disease and diabetes through lifestyle change would make me feel as though I was making a positive impact on the world. After all none of us want to think that our time on earth is for nothing.
· I would like to be an active financial contributor to the family again. Most of our relationship I made as much or more income than Dan so not contributing has been rough on my self-esteem. I don’t think anyone wants to feel like they are a net drain.
· I believe that I am fairly good at helping people to identify what is holding them back from making change and I think this is at least as important as giving them recipes, menus or lists of things to eat and to avoid.
· I would feel better about myself if I knew I was helping people. Although I think that I am helping people with the blog without the interaction I am never certain. It would be nice to have the one-on-one contact with people and to see and hear about their progress.
4. Whatever you identified in item 1 above now you need to commit to taking the first step. In order to hold yourself accountable I want you to tell someone what you have committed to do and when you will do it.
· I have been working on a separate website for my new business. I will be sharing that link with you on February 10th. That will force me to get it finished and to put it out there for everyone. I had originally planned to share it with you on February 1 but with all the time I am putting into writing the 31 days to better health series I don’t know that I can get if finished and be happy with it. Wish me luck on this one. With starting classes at RMT I have no idea how much time I will have. Can you tell I am feeling pressure already? LOL
1. Newsletters – Friday was another productive day for me which feels great. I love being able to see the progress that I am making. *woo hoo*
2. Body Bugg – I continue to wear my bugg and I have gotten back into using the way I had intended when I purchased it. Go me! J
3. Date with Dan – The hubby and I have spent a lot of time together this week. I am always surprised that after more than 2 decades we never run out of things to talk about.
4. Measuring calorie dense food – I am making a little progress on this but I really need to focus on it with every veggie meal to help my body absorb the fat soluble vitamins.
5. Working on my business – I spent a little time on my other website yesterday. I am making progress on it but I know that I need to just let it go as is at some point and stop trying for perfection which isn’t possible.
· Friday was productive at my house and that felt good. I got a little cooking done which was nice. I also spend some time studying and I love to do that so it was a very good day all around for me.
· Yesterday (Friday) was the first day Dan was out of my sight other than when he was sleeping at the hospital and I was home. I was surprised that I was able to stay as calm as I did. Apparently my meditation has more of a calming influence over me than I ever expected.
· I was very happy to see the comment from Susan yesterday about sticking with her healthy eating goals this year. I love to hear that people are making progress and I am thrilled to play a small part in that progress. Thanks for sharing that with us Susan. You can expect me to write a post about cheese very soon just for you. ;-) I used to ADORE cheese and considered myself a “cheese-aholic” so I can definitely relate to your dilemma. Trust me you can give up cheese as impossible at that seems. I never thought that I could and I have gotten to the point that I not only don’t miss it but I wouldn’t eat it unless there was literally no other food on earth. How is that for a turnaround? There really is hope for you too. J
· I made smoky mushrooms yesterday without an indoor smoker and they turned out fine. I love it when I take a recipe and simply the method so anyone can make it. Go me!
· It is wonderful to know that we have a big jar (literally 64 ounces) of split pea soup in the refrigerator. There is nothing more comforting that bean soup on a cold snowy winter day. Yay me for planning!
· Dan’s temperature is still normal and he continues to feel more like himself. He was even out shoveling the sidewalk this morning after our overnight “snow event”. Things are definitely returning to normal around here. When he came in from shoveling I did make him a triple earl grey green tea with fresh orange juice to help him warm up. I wanted to go outside and do the shoveling but he wouldn’t let me. Sometimes my hubby can be as stubborn as me. ;-)
· Dan really had a good time with Dan Jr. at lunch. The boys are going to try to get together for lunch at least once a month going forward which I think sounds great.
· I am also happy for sushi for lunch yesterday. It wasn’t only because I love sushi but because my husband proactively thought to bring me sushi. I really did marry the right guy for me didn’t I?
· I have been enjoying the first four videos on the RMT training. They are definitely outside my comfort zone but I think that is great. I was telling Dan last night that I will need to watch them a few more times so that I can “embody” what they are trying to teach me. However I love to learn so I don’t mind a bit.
· I am also looking forward to part 2 of the IIN training starting in March. Yes I will be doing two programs at once (RMT and IIN Immersion), daily exercise, daily meditation, daily uplifting reading, staying current with nutrition research, starting a business, continuing to work with my current clients, taking care of my family (Dan, fur children and my parents), working on the blog, developing new recipes and getting in some much needed boat time for R&R. You did know that I was a glutton for punishment didn’t you? If anyone tells you that retirement is boring don’t believe them! I have heard it said before that if you are bored it is because you are boring and I think there is a measure of truth to that. I hope that seeing what I do every day will inspire a few of you to get into the kitchen and cook a little more often. While I may not have a “traditional’ 9-5 job I am definitely not lounging around either.
· Dan is going to work on putting together a walking desk for me so that I can study and get exercise. Isn’t he a sweetie pie? I really do have the best husband in the entire world. Of course I am not the least bit biased. LOL